Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Let's call the whole thing off

I was perhaps a tad hasty in writing the shotgun wedding off as being so cut and dry. This little nugget of enlightenment came to me at precisely 5.12 in the morning as I lay in bed listening to the beau yell at Lolicon (hereinafter referred to as Baby Daddy). The beau and I have had periods of ridiculous fighting so I know what he's like in a yelling match, but when he started rolling his Rs yakuza-style I knew he wasn't playin. I normally find that whole macho/angry Japanese man R-rolling thing hot so as I lay there ears a-perk, I wavered between lusty admiration and pain at the actual situation taking place.

As predicted in my last post, the beau did indeed received a phone call from his parents but it was far from over. Also as predicted but to a further extent, they are well put out over the fact that the first mention of Baby Mama is a joint pregnancy/marriage announcement. Due to our passing ships schedules, I haven't been able to grasp all sides of the situation yet, which would entail me firing questions at the beau so that I may eventually learn every sordid detail. However, this is what I've gleaned thus far: The beau's parents realize the family is in a "sho ga nai (can't be helped, c'est la vie) situation but are still smarting from the fact that Baby Daddy has not done things the proper way, or at least take Baby Mama up north to properly introduce her and then open up about their predicament, or at least give some kind of introductory speech, background of how they met, anything really, to assure them that he has thought about this and isn't making bad decisions for everyone concerned. From what I can tell, the conflict is coming down to a show of maturity and also respect for his family, who have been blindsided by this. It seems BD has met BM's family on several occasions but hasn't bothered to mention her to his parents or their proxy representative in Tokyo, the beau.

There is a certain order for doing things here, and even if you fuck that up, you are expected to proceed in some semblance of the original order. The beau told his mom that he would call BD before she contacts him again, to elaborate on exactly why their parents are upset and suggest ways to make amends. This, I assume, didn't go down very well judging from the change in pronunciation of the Rs. I was utterly exhausted at the time of the call but couldn't very well sleep at that point, so I remained in bed listening to the whole thing. BD was not very receptive to some of the beau's ideas and criticisms, it seems he expects his parents to get with the play without having time to absorb what the beau and I have had a week to do. Even without hearing BD, I could tell from what the beau was saying that they were going round in circles, with the beau urging BD to take BM up north for a day trip at least over the New Year's period, to show their parents he values their opinion and is somewhat formally asking for their support.

I started to get a little cranky at the length of the call and its interference with my much-needed sleep. The beau was chewing his brother out for not acting like an adult and yet he is the one who called at 5am to discuss things (granted BD also works nights). Poking my head out I asked him to wrap it up for the morning and after more vocal escalation I turned on the cranky bitch and yelled for them both to hear that I had to work that morning, followed by an ever mature sliding door slam.

I called the beau during my lunch to see what was going on, maybe apologize for getting nasty and receive an apology for being kept up, but I really wanted to ask about something that had been niggling at my mind since hearing it. I had heard the beau asking BD what their parents had said to him and at one point he said, "Green-eyed doesn't think that." What do I have to do with it? I predictably worked myself into a tizzy over this, for what consideration to me would be given in a situation I am not remotely involved in? I am thinking the worst, that the beau's parents think I won't want to marry into such craziness or worse, that I am going to feel bad/jealous that I'm not ringed and pregnant despite having been with the beau for more than a couple months. When asked about the precise nature of what I apparently didn't think, the beau told me we would discuss it later and not over the phone. Fan-fucking-tastic. Points to those who guess right and to be continued...

12 comments:

bakasaru said...

hello, i see there is some remodelling in progres. i have to say that the background is a bit too flashy. since you write long posts it will put some strain on the eyes.
im gonna look forward to the finished thing
good luck

Green-Eyed Geisha said...

bakasuru - Yes, I've now made it perfectly clear to everyone that my computer skill set is practically non-existent. I will need more than luck!!

Lisa said...

THIS IS SO EXCITING!!

Tokyo Moe said...

Languages, culture, time zones: that's a lot of issues with family communications. I can't wait to hear how this all plays out. But I worry about your lack of sleep. And, just to be slightly contrary, I like the new color scheme and busy pattern!

Jen B said...

I think that his parents held you up as a shining example and said that you would never do such a thing as to get pregnant in a hurry with your life in a mess to a weirdo and thus, your bf said that you don't think that it's a problem at all to get pregnant in a hurry with your life in a mess. And that you don't think he's a weirdo.

Good news is that you keep your top position!

Tornadoes28 said...

This is juicy.

kathrynoh said...

Arggghhh, I need to know now. My guess is the BD said all women think he's a hot piece of man-meat -- and that got the response GE doesn't think that. Of course that would be totally inappropriate in the context of the conversation.

Anonymous said...

Wow. These new developments are fascinating. :O

I love the new colors! The white font on a black background was killing my eyes. It's MUCH easier to read now. :D

illahee said...

i like the new look! no guesses from me, i have a foggy brain at the mo. looking forward to the next installment!

My name is MISA. said...

Your website is so addictive and I hope that everything works out best for you and for their baby!

Isn't it "shika ga nai" and not "shoganai", though?

Anonymous said...

oh man, I cannot wait to hear what happens with this. I love family drama. When it's not my own.

Green-Eyed Geisha said...

Thank you all for the supportive comments, I love knowing I'm not the only one with a pension for dirrrrty sordid details!! As for the few guesses as to what the comment in question referred to, I'm terribly sad to say that no one was right, not even me. But more on that soon.

Tokyo Moe - Like my new hair, I am still getting used to this new background. I am dying to tweak around some more, but that may have to wait until my time off at the end of the year.

Jen B - I really don't like to use "LOL" in public, but if I did, I would right now.

Kathrynoh - It would be inappropriate but that's what we're all about here at Chez Geisha!!! :)

Anon - It was a maaaajor motherfucker and for that I apologize for not fixing it sooner. In retrospect, I'm surprised I had any repeat readers!!!

MISA - You can say "shikata ga nai" and "sho ga nai" is the shortened form of it. I love your profile picture thing!!!